It wasn’t long ago when I viewed the world in a pretty binary fashion. I looked upon society as a competition between irreconcilable ideals; left v right, security v freedom, liberty v democracy. I can no longer abide these false dichotomies.
No, I’m not admitting that I was wrong on my greater instincts about how society should work. I’m still a radical for liberty – including capitalism. I still have an increasing distrust of government and its ability to solve problems. I still am cynical about the motivations of do-goodery by professional do-gooders. And I still think that Locke was right and Hobbes was wrong (although not as wrong as Rousseau.) The difference, I think, is that now I’m much more certain that I could be wrong. Not that I am.
I began publishing thoughts on the internet about 10 years ago. At first it was my own musing at the old pre-blog davebudge.com and then as a contributor at EnterStageRight.com and other “conservative” on-line publications. And as I increased my writing over the years I become nothing more that another member of the perennially pissed-off. I honed my skills in hurling churlish insults at my ideological others. I became a caricature of the three Vs of blogging; vitriol, vituperation and veneer. What a waste of time.
I have become increasingly disillusioned with conservative commentary with respect to seeing that the right’s confirmation bias is as stark as the left’s. I’m disappointed by most, left and right alike, in the failure to argue in good faith. And I’m just tired of everyone calling each other stupid or evil or lazy.
It was an encouraging break when, recently, ProblemBear of 4&20 Blackbirds decreed that being angry was personally counter-productive. And young Lizard, of the same ilk, has come to a similar reflection. I’m also appreciative of the fact that it’s been several years since Pogie has called me an idiot and a while since Wulfgar has gone, well, Wulfgar on my ass. In both cases I think we’ve recently had some quite rational discourse. And I even think that JC no longer thinks that I’m summarily full of shit. That, however, may be my confusing his demonstration of good manners toward me as opposed to what he really thinks. At least our interactions haven’t been personal polemics. Additionally, I would be remiss in not mentioning that jhwygirl is and always has been gracious when called out with competing ideas (even though I think she’s often a bit too quick on the trigger in promoting the lasts blast du jour from the left.) But at the end of the day she is always thoughtful and open to argument while very rarely resorting to ad hominem rhetoric. And all the while I have to admit that any bad will between anyone with whom I become nasty is not all their fault. I’ve excelled, at times, in being an insufferable ass-hole. Just ask my kids.
I won’t go as far as to say that I am tolerant of everyone in the blogosphere. It is intolerably tedious to me when my co-bloggers at Electric City Weblog are treated in bad faith. All of them, Gregg, Rob and Travis are huge intellects with deep resumes (far beyond my own) and all deserve not simply courtesy but respect – even if one disagrees with their thinking. As I’ve said in the past, I often hold back over there because I’m afraid that they will be painted with guilt by association to me. They are all more thoughtful and gracious than I might ever be and I’m privileged to be able to publish with them. My inclination is almost always to tell their detractors to “fuck off” but I know that all of them would prefer to do their own defense. But just for the record, if you refer to Rob as “purfessur” or some such you can take it as a given that I’m telling you to “fuck off.”
I think it was about six months ago when I decided that I would try my best to knock-off the insults. I’ve violated that rule from time to time but, overall, I’m working on my manners. The upshot to my own behavior is that I’m no longer perpetually pissed-off. I no longer think that every motivation is suspect and has ulterior motives. I no longer care to fight. In a twelve step program this would be called living one’s way into better thinking rather than thinking one’s way into better living.
What does seem profitable to me is looking for new, big, ideas. It also appears to me that I would profit by attempting to understand my opponents motivations and logic to the point where I can argue their position as well as I can argue my own. That’s hard to do. Our thinking gets subsumed by our experiences and maybe Descartes was right to hold suspect all that we perceive to be real. The best example is the modern libertarian notion that our rights are being continually attacked. That may be true if one is a white male but if one is a gay black women freedom is looking damn respectable when compared to life in 18th century America. As always, where you stand depends on where you sit. We all profit from keeping that in mind (and yet another reason to read John Rawls.)
So, if I could ask anything of everyone who engages in political and philosophical discourse it would be to at least try to approach the world with a great deal more of good faith and stop calling each other names. There are good socialists and there are good capitalists and no one has a monopoly on truth. No one.
To correct what the Wizard of Oz should have said, it’s not a matter of how much people like you. What really matters is how much you like them. That’s a matter of choice.